Jaclyn Beckerman Coaching

What’s not happening can never be what’s actually happening.

I’ve noticed recently how much energy I spend on what’s not happening.

For example, I had some friends meeting me at Sacred Center a couple weeks ago and they were 45 minutes late.  That’s halfway through the service.  And for the first half of the service, I was watching the door for them and thinking about where they were, annoyed that they weren’t there.  It was then that I first realized that I spend so much time focused on what’s isn’t happening (here it’s that they weren’t there yet) that I don’t get to enjoy whatever is going on.  The kicker is, the idea that ‘they weren’t there’, wasn’t actually happening.  In that moment, all that was happening was that I was there, listening to people sign and talk at Sacred Center.  I was completely lacking any presence whatsoever with where I currently was and wasn’t enjoying this thing that I was there for.

I’ve since started really practicing noticing when I’m stressing out about something that’s not happening.  One of the most obvious places this shows up for me is when someone is late to meet me.  I notice all my focus goes towards them being late and where they are instead of just focusing on where I am and being in the moment.  It’s true they might be late, but where they are really doesn’t have to affect me and take over my consciousness.  I can instead choose to be with what is.

I know I’ve focused on lateness here but consider this same idea is applicable in any area of life where you’re focusing on what’s not so instead of what is.

This could be when you’re sitting at home thinking about work and dreading a certain project or boss or going in general (you’re not currently at work though!).  Or when you’re on vacation thinking about all you’re going to have to deal with when you get home and making lists of what to do (not much of a vacation).  Or when you’re on a date and thinking about if this is going to go anywhere and measuring  your date up against some imaginary guidelines (you’re with someone now! Be with them).  I’m sure you can think of many more examples.

Start noticing where your energy is.  Is it in any other moment than the current one?  What would be different or available to you if you got present to where you are right now, all the time?  What if you stopped stressing out about the things that you’re assuming (or making up) are happening and just started living in the present moment?

I had my first experience with acupuncture today! Deganit (who also teaches my intuitive tools class and does intuitive readings) is training to be an acupuncturist and already works with clients to help heal them through this method. I have a cold and she happened to bring her needles with her and generously spent some extra time with me to ‘needle’ me after our class today!

Basically they’re individually wrapped extremely thin needles (with some sort of casing). She puts them on various specific points on your body that are known to move energy and affect healing. For me this included one on each foot, one on each lower part of my legs, two on each hand (different spots of course), one at the middle of the top of my forehead, one above each eyebrow and two above my lips.

She’d put it against my skin, sometimes tap the skin near it, and then tap the top of the thing to have the needle penetrate the skin into the right spot. It mostly didn’t hurt in the slightest. Only a few spots, on the side of my left hand near my thumb (which she said releases heat which is why that spot tends to hurt a little, on the top of my forehead (that hurt the most – though it wasn’t horrible or anything), and the ones above my lips pinched a tiny bit.

Then I just laid there with them in for about 25 minutes. I could feel my sinuses clear up a little and felt some energy move/release a few times in my forehead, feet and hands.

I also notice that my eyes have been less itchy since) which I’d mentioned was a habitual problem. Deggi said this may take more that one time to heal though. It would be AMAZING if I never had to deal with that again!

All in all it was a really good experience and I’m so curious to find out more about what accupuncture can do for you and the long or short term effects it’s capable of producing .

What experiences have you had with acupuncture?