Jaclyn Beckerman Coaching

You’ve heard me talk about Sacred Center before and how much I LOVE this spiritual center and going there has made a significant impact on my life.

Well this is in part because I adore Rev. August Gold who is spiritual yet admirably grounded, incredibly funny and fiercely loving.

So it breaks my heart to have found out yesterday that she (and her partner Carol) will be leaving Sacred Center. She’s going outside the church walls to bring the spiritual message to folks who won’t enter the church  to hear it.  She says while she was called by Spirit to found the church, she won’t be the one to grow it.  And so long as she remains the face of the church, and it’s basically her, it cannot grow.

I’ll be honest, I’m kind of heart broken and may have cried a bit yesterday when this news was shared.  I’m still in a bit of shock and disbelief.

While I’m happy she’ll be bringing the message to a broader audience who needs it (a journey I myself feel called to as well with transformational and spiritual work), I still wish she would do both and continue to lead at Sacred Center as well.

I’m also really wondering (and concerned to be honest) what’s going to happen at the church moving forward as I really believe a significant amount of people come there specifically because of her.  Will the new head spiritual director be able to step it up to the same level?  I hope she can.

I’m finding myself being a bit cynical and expecting it won’t thrive and the new lead won’t be able to fill Rev. Gold’s shoes.  Only in this moment do I realize that that’s just my own ‘story’ (or racket for you landmark folk) and I need to get off it.  Something can only make a difference for you if you empower it to do so.  If you’re not open to it, the greatest miracle in the world won’t provide a penny’s worth of value.  So I’m going to choose to be open to this new change and the possibility of it being amazing and inspiring.

For anyone who attends Sacred Center – what are your thoughts on this change?  How are you dealing with your feelings/emotions around it?

Or if you’re not involved with Sacred Center – have you had (or where are you having) an experience like this where something you loved suddenly changed drastically?  What did you do and what did/could you do (or not do) to empower the situation?

Because you can’t.  You can only change yourself and your relationship to other people.  You can’t actually change them. There’s nothing wrong with them anyway.  They are however they are.  Where the power and magic to transform a relationship exists is completely within shifting your own interpretations and reactions to whatever it is they do and whoever they ‘be’.

Consider that YOU are the source of ALL of your grief, anxiety and frustration, yet you assume it is caused by another person (or circumstance, or event, etc).  All that angst is a derivative of your own beliefs and thought processes about how people or things should or shouldn’t be.  What would life be like for you if you could live outside of all the ‘should’ and ‘should nots’?  Outside of defending, justifying or blaming?  What possibility do you see that would create space for?  Who could you BE then?

I was journaling yesterday on how Spirit could guide me to focus more attentively on my relationship with myself and with others as well as various areas of life where I’m up to things (business, relationship, friendships, fitness, travel, writing).  I got two main things out of it.  One was to follow my intuition with conviction and do whatever feels right.  To move in the direction of my passions and let the universe work out the details.  The other, more relevant to this particular topic, was to accept people as they are.  I mean, REALLY accept people as they are.  To completely and totally love them for all they are and all they are not and to not wish, hope or try to change them.  After all, wishing they would change is just as destructive as trying to change them.

I also got that as a coach, bringing unconditional acceptance ‘as is’ to my stand for my clients doesn’t mean I don’t support and partner with them in creating their transformation.  After all, they’re hiring me to create the life of their dreams and get results.  It just means that they are perfectly fine wherever they are and there’s absolutely nothing wrong.  Ever.  There are just things that they want in their life that they currently don’t have, obstacles to remove from the path, and breakthroughs to create to get there.  I have always understood this, especially at the intellectual level, but this time seemed to have permeated me even more deeply than in the past, to a level that touched my soul and shifted my perspective.

Now back to you, I’m not saying that you must or should keep everyone in your life and just ‘rise above it’.  Use your own intuition.  You may find that there are some things you are unwilling to settle for which may be an indication that it is no longer serving you to keep someone in your life.  On the other hand, you may find that you’ve been being a jerk or have been instigating tension or disconnect and choose to change the way you relate to them.  Look at what is most in line with what you are committed to in your life.  Regardless of what you choose, and it is most definitely a choice, when you get present to accepting them as they are, you then are responsible for empowering your decision to continue the relationship or not and how it goes from that point on.

So look at the relationships in your life.  Really look on your side of the street at what has them going the way they are.  From a place of accepting those people completely, what is there to take on?  Apology? Forgiveness? Support? Completion? The ability to create relationships that nourish you exists within in your heart.  Let it speak to you.

I closed my eyes on the subway today.  I had music on at the time and just focused on nothing but the music.  What I realized is that I can quite easily create spaciousness and peace even when I’m surrounded by dozens of people I don’t know.

It’s similar to the sensation I get from being at Siddha Yoga.  I’m chanting and meditating with a room full of people (there they’re doing the same) and the only time I’m really present to being surrounded by folks is if I open my eyes.  The difference there is the warm feeling of unity and belonging you get from being surrounded by others who are committed to raising their spiritual awareness and consciousness.

It’s amazing to me though how closing my eyes and getting present in the moment shifts my mind frame and attitude.  I wasn’t particularly flustered or anything on the subway but the stark contrast of before and after closing my eyes and going within was certainly notable.  Afterward I felt more connected and at ease.

It’s wonderful to experience because just a couple years ago I adamantly proclaimed that I couldn’t meditate even though I wanted to and believed it could be useful in helping me focus and find some inner calmness.

It makes me wonder how quickly other folks give up trying to meditate after a handful of failed attempts.  Have you ever tried?  If you did try and gave up, how much of a shot did you really give it?

I ask because there was a time when I was one of those people who had given up on it. Knowing now the difference it has made in my life – and the difference it has made in many others lives based on various discussions I’ve had – I easily and whole-heartedly recommend it to anyone.

There are so many studies on the benefits of meditation.  Here are just a couple articles that discuss how meditating can make you more intelligent because it increases the size of your brain and how it calms your emotional response system.

There are many forms of meditation.  So if just shutting your mind off for an extended period of time seems daunting or difficult, you could try starting with visual meditation or mindful meditation where you focus on a particular feeling or word – or even just smile the entire time.  Shutting your mind off entirely from it’s regular whirring seems to be the most challenging but many say it just takes practice and a commitment to keep trying and expanding your capacity for it even if/when you struggle with it.

Meditating has been credited with such accolades as lowering stress, anxiety, and depression and increasing happiness. But regardless of how you take it on and learn, it sure seems as though the benefits outweigh the effort you have to put in.

What value do you see for yourself in calming or pausing your mind’s constant churning and actually being still and present for any extended period of time?  What difference might it make in your life to start practicing some focused attention inwards without the judgmental or critical eye of your ego mind?

If you do meditate regularly, what benefits have you gained from the practice?

Personally, I believe it’s made me calmer and significantly more capable of being at ease regardless of the situation or circumstance I’m currently in.  It’s also helped me become more spacious and unattached to any particular outcome with people like potential clients or even with friends.  All absolutely worthwhile results.

The soul doesn’t talk in language, it talks in feeling; in intuition, pulling or knowing towards something.

How often are we in conflict about things because what our head says isn’t what our heart wants?  The answers to your purpose and the path you’re meant to take in this life don’t reside in fear, judgment, or self-loathing.  They lie in going within, to that deep part within you that knows your higher truth and the vast array of abundance that is completely available to you.

Not everyone is willing to take this path though.  Lets be honest, it’s not the ‘easy’ path to take.  It’s so much easier to remain stagnant and stew in the comfort of our incompletions and dissatisfaction than it is to actually break free of those patterns and be responsible for how our life occurs for us.

Personally I stewed for SO long.  For most of my life in fact.  It’s definitely coaching, transformational and spiritual work that has pulled me out of my shitty little box of what was possible for me.  Actually, I always saw the bigger picture and the the possibility of life, I think I just didn’t really believe true happiness and fulfillment was possible for me in my heart.  I knew it was possible for everyone else but some core part of me didn’t believe that I deserved it too.

It’s mind-boggling for me to realize how far I’ve come from that place.  I may have understood intellectually before but didn’t truly get in my heart that love truly is all around you and within.  You don’t need something outside of yourself to tell you you’re worthwhile and lovable.  You, without even trying, just are.  Just like I am.  There are treasures and wisdom and riches within.  Yet I kept looking for things outside of me to justify my worth.  (Look for yourself here too – where are you doing that?)  The ironic thing is that if you know me, you’ve probably always known that I’m valuable and lovable, while not truly believing it about yourself.  Or at least having some form of ‘I’m not good enough’ persistently hanging out in your head.

Funny how we all think we’re so different, but we’re actually not.  We all have fears and insecurities.  We all go through breakdowns and think that ours are so unique… and no one has it as bad as we do… and it’s not fair… and why can’t we just be like everyone else who has it together?!

The big joke is that no one has it all together.  We’re all working out or own stuff and in the process of generating our lives.  We may be at different stages in the process or dealing with different kinds of problems.  (Case and point, Mother Theresa had way bigger problems than I do and was certainly more evolved on her journey of compassion, tender-heartedness and contribution – but I’d put money on that she still dealt with her own fears and ‘problems’ just like everyone else has to. Same with the Ghandi, the Dalai Lama, etc.   We’re human.)

All I’m saying is that when you see, own, and access all the love around and within you, you stop searching for it externally and start owning that you are responsible for and fully capable of creating the life you want.  Rev. Gold said “Once you’ve connected to the inner kingdom, the place from which stuff comes, you now have access to it.  You no longer have to worry about what channel to get it from next.”

So what I’ve taken is is to stop worrying – it’s ALL within.  And wow, are things just happening in my life.  I invite you to do it with me.

Saturday I took the bus to Philly early in the morning to attend a 10am-5pm workshop with Brian Weiss.  Dr. Weiss is famous for his work with past life regression therapy and has written a handful of books on his experiences with patients using this tool for healing.

Throughout the day he talked about some past experiences and gave background information for those who weren’t familiar with his work and did a few experiential exercises with us including a couple past life regressions.

They would turn the lights very low and put on some soft background music and he would guide everyone into a trance (hypnosis) which is really just, as he mentioned, relaxed focused concentration.

In the first regression I saw myself as a king.  I was a large man and had a full white beard.  I was sitting in my throne and people were lined up to offer me gifts.  There were people lined up facing inward on either side of this procession as well.  I was very pleased to receive the gifts but I was not very generous in giving to the people which made them resentful.  It was like it was all about me and I didn’t really care about the other people.  The lesson for me to learn was that of being generous and giving to others the way I’d like to be given to in order to foster love, respect and unity.  When we fast forwarded to my death I saw that my throat was cut by my brother (who was my brother Michael in this lifetime) who wanted the throne for himself.

Later, in the second regression, I saw myself as a pregnant wife who had had a lot of trouble conceiving.  When I had the child it was a girl and my husband was angry about this because he wanted a boy.  He then forced me to have sex with him against my will repeatedly until I got pregnant again.  I felt worn out and beaten down, and died in childbirth giving birth to another girl.  I didn’t get to look into the lessons of this lifetime as we moved on to look at another.  Looking back on this now I think the lesson to learn is to express myself fully – it’s okay to get angry and it’s okay to rebel against people who treat me badly or things I don’t agree with or am not happy or comfortable with.  I notice this theme in other past lives I’ve seen recently as well.  In the past (in this lifetime too) I’ve tended to be somewhat submissive about accepting what other people want and not standing up for myself because I don’t want to rock the boat. I need to trust my gut and follow my instincts instead of allowing others to influence or dictate my thought process or actions. At this point I was a bit stuck on the images I had seen and was aware of someone having fallen asleep and snoring next to me and had trouble focusing on the images.  We had spirit guides, who I saw as two children, a boy and a girl, come to take us to our next destination.  There were 5 or 6 doors, each leading to a different time period, we were to walk through the door that called to us the most.  I went through the 20 BC door and found myself as a thin woman named Genevieve in Egypt wearing a white cloth robe and sandals.  I didn’t see anything else about the lifetime though.

Dr Weiss said that Karma basically means that what you sow is what you reap.  Actions have consequences and they come back to you until you learn the lesson.  Karma is there to teach you not to punish you.  Once you learn the lesson, the karma dissolves because you don’t need it anymore.  This is why past life regression therapy seems to work so well for people to dissolve fears, phobias and even illnesses, because by learning the lesson you are meant to learn, you complete the karma.

Another thing we did was partner up and exchange a personal item with our partner.  We then went a bit deeper into trance and looked for what images or messages we got from holding the object.  For my partner I got that he had been a boy scout when he was very young and his father had been a bit indifferent and emotionally flat towards him.  I got that he just wanted to be loved by his father but didn’t feel like he had that.  I also got that his father had passed away and was very sorry and regretted how he’d been towards his son and wanted him to know he loved him very much.  I also saw that he lived in a house – at first I saw a two story house and then a single story and then the idea of an apartment in the house even though I knew it wasn’t an apartment building.  My partner verified that all of this was really accurate which was pretty cool.  He’d been a boy scout, his father had died 4 years ago and had terribly regretted how he treated his family because he was always busy and away doing other things.  He also said he lived in a two story house but his grandparents lived on one floor and his family lived on the other which explains the different imagery with the house.  While I’ve read some people and looked at future events I hadn’t really looked at anyone’s past in their current lifetime so it was awesome to be able to confirm the accuracy of what I saw.

We also did an exercise that has you have a dialog with some illness you possess (physical, emotional or mental) in order to heal it.  I did it with ‘laziness’.  You ask the illness a bunch of questions and it answers and then you switch places with the illness.  What I got from this experience was that I’m afraid of getting so busy and so caught up in doing things that I won’t have time for fun, play, relaxing or well being.  So if I make it a priority to include those things and even maybe schedule them in, it will be easier for me to be productive and do the activities or tasks I know are important to do.

It was basically the kind of exercises I’ve already been doing/working with now but it’s always a fascinating experience and I got a lot out of being there.

I feel like many (most?) people don’t.  In fact, many people seem to actually hate themselves.  Which sounds really sad (and it is) but seems so frequently to be true.

I used to be one of those people. Who didn’t love myself and didn’t think I was lovable.  Now, until getting involved with transformational work, I didn’t actually realize I felt this way.  It was a core belief I had hidden away far below the surface, where I didn’t have to see it or do anything about it. I might have even denied it if I’d been asked and I certainly did my best to overcompensate for the belief by being confident and outgoing.

In fact, there are plenty (perhaps even the majority) of people who even when they do face the fact that they believe this (or something like it, ie: worthless, useless, etc), don’t want to do anything about it because they’re so terrified of change and the unknown that they’d rather have things stay the same, safe and comfortable albeit resigned and unsatisfying.

From that place, you’re always living a life of not being enough.  So naturally, nothing ever will be enough.  From there, you can only see what’s lacking and trying to fix what’s wrong.

When in reality, there’s nothing wrong with you at all and certainly nothing to fix.  You are complete and whole just as you are.  There may be some stuff (mainly beliefs) in the way of you living the life you want to live.  But it’s transforming those beliefs and your relationship to yourself, not ‘fixing’ them, that makes the difference.

This has been a long journey for me to come to this place where I DO love myself and am happy with who I am.  I may not have it all figured out yet, and there are of course still fears that come up within me, but inherently I believe that I am a loving contribution to the world and the world is lucky to have me.

A delightful result of this is that I’m actually being a very different person and attracting wonderful things into my life like new men, friends, clients, and venues that support my continual growth and contribute to me living a phenomenal life of my choosing.

A friend asked me how I possibly had so many men asking me out and said I needed to give lessons.  I told her she needs to learn to love herself first and the rest will follow.  I really believe that it’s only because I’ve finally accepted myself with compassion and love that I’m attracting so many great things into my life.  I’m sure you’ve heard the old adage that says, ‘you can’t love someone until you learn to love yourself’.  Well I believe that’s true, and additionally that it will be much more difficult for someone else to love you if you can’t love yourself.  How can someone else possibly give you what you deny giving yourself?

So answer for yourself honestly, how much do you really love you?  Could it be more?  What could you take on to increase your experience of self-love?  Because whether you’re willing to admit it or not, I bet everyone could use more love in their lives – and it truly does start with you.  Feel free to share below. <3

I do.  And I always get an answer.

When I talk to God (or if you prefer – spirit, universe, higher power, whatever works for you) it’s usually either in writing or in my head (which makes me feel slightly crazy sometimes).  But whatever I ask is ALWAYS answered immediately.  Usually in my own voice – but there’s always an answer there and that answer is not based in my fears or insecurities.

I’ve worked persistently to develop my ability to access my intuition and listen to what it says.  And so long as the answer is based in love and a stand for my greatness, I know it comes directly from spirit.  So whether you see it as my intuition, higher self or God – I believe that voice is connected to the universe in ways I don’t have evidence for and can’t explain.  That’s part of why they call it faith, don’t you think?

There have been (and still are) many times where I’ve ignored my inner compass, which consistently gives me the answers I’m need (although not always the ones I want) and provides incredible guidance.  Often this is because my head wants one thing and my heart wants another.  Although, time and time again, my heart proves to be right whether I listen to it or not.

It’s interesting how adamant we can be about ignoring this inner knowing or understanding.  We seem to be more committed to that disempowering voice in our head that tells us we’re not good enough than we are to being our greatness.  Which, absurd as it may seem, makes perfect sense.  It’s safer and easier to hang out in our comfort zone wrapped up in our fears where we don’t have to change or do anything differently.  But the life you want, if you don’t already have it, doesn’t exist within what you already know.  So for those of us who are brave enough to face the unknown with love, change it is.

What does your intuition tell you?  How do you speak to God?

…and you’ll get it back 1000 fold.

Rev. Gold talked about the law of attraction in her message at Sunday’s service.

Phenomenal message.  She said anything you seek is seeking you.

We are constantly asking what can life do for me when what we should be asking is “What can I do for life?”  It blew my mind how similar this was to the breakthrough I had and wrote about in my blog post a couple weeks ago, Sharing My Heart.

We can’t have what we want until we generate it within ourselves and give it away.  EVERYTHING is already within you.  Put out a hand and ask for life to give to you and you will just end up with an empty hand.  You can only receive what you want when you give it away first.

I believe it’s the Koran that says ‘take one step towards me and I will take a thousand toward you’.  The smaller and stingier we give of ourselves the less we get in return.  When we move in the direction of our hearts and our own personal truth, and give to life, we then create space for that thing to exist within our lives.  When we hold a mentality of abundance, we are then attracting and open to receiving abundance.  When we are generous, the world is generous with us.

It seems so simple yet par for the course of humanity, we make even the most common sense concepts unendingly complicated.

The law of correspondence (or attraction) says that what you yourself are bringing to life, life, like a mirror, reflects that back to you.  Said more plainly, life will reflect back to you that which you have given to life.

The light bulb went on that I have definitely not been giving my best everywhere so of course I’m not getting it back in return.  How could I?!  You can only get what you put out there.

Talk about motivation.

I had my intuitive tools class with Deganit Nuur today.  Deganit is a gifted intuitive reader who went to school for it and is now teaching folks who are interested how to do it themselves.  It’s essentially a lot of visual meditation and allowing your intuition to express itself to you either visually or by thoughts that come to you.  She does the class in 4 levels with three 3-hour classes per level at $150 for class.

I’ve used the techniques/tools just for myself to ground and bring in good energy as needed which is amazing and it’s also useful for gaining insights from past events, making decisions or attracting something into your life.

Today we learned how to look at relationships in our lives and learn what’s going on in them and how they’re serving us as well as how they’ll develop in the future.  We also learned how to go look at past events that have occurred and see what there is to learn from them (or to learn from our past selves or what we have to say to our past selves).

It’s a small class this time with just two of us learning so we’re doing it at my place.  One girl had to leave a bit early so at the end Deggi and I read each other.  I of course won’t share about her reading since it’s not mine to share but I will tell you a bit about mine!  I’m just going to share one thing she saw in my current life and then share what she saw looking into one of my past lives.

Again, Deggi is amazing at doing readings.  We talked about my friendships and she described one of the girls she recognized as me having a really close friendship with in the future.  She saw someone who had long dark hair & fair skin who really doesn’t care about what others think about her.  She’s a very bold person, is not a people pleaser at all and will always give it to me straight and I know that she completely still loves me and accepts me for who I am.  She said she is not very open to the metaphysical stuff that I’m into (it’s kind of weird to her) but is curious about it and there’s a part of her that is into the idea of it and it’s inspiring to her.  She helps me not care about what others think and own my space more and I help her with her spirituality and her softer side.  I probed with some questions asking if I already knew this person and she got a ‘yes and no’ saying I may have met her a few times but don’t really know her and we don’t have friends in common.  Then she said I may have met her in a gym class (I gasped).  Then I asked if I had ever been friends with her before and she said she ‘got a huge yes’. I told her I knew who it was!  She asked who and I said my friend Jen (to which she got a yes).  I met her in the gym before school started in 8th grade! She was one of my closest friends when I was young and then we grew apart and just reconnected a month ago. (Jen has admitted that she’s not very open to the metaphysical but is very interested to learn more about it because I’m so passionate about it.  The rest of the description of her is pretty accurate as well.)  So I thought this was incredibly cool validation for what she was seeing because there’s no possible way she could have known all this stuff about this friend.

On to the past life part.  I also asked if I’d been a princess in a past life (if you’ve read my past posts, this has come up for me more than once) and she said yes and then looked into the life that came up for her. She saw me at around 9 years old.  I always got what I wanted (funny because my sister recently said I was put on this planet to get what I want) and I was running around the castle, not very well behaved (frustrating for my caretakers).  I knew the rules but thought, ‘whatever I’m a princess’, so I ignored the smaller rules and acted instead on the bigger picture I saw around me.  I was gifted at seeing the bigger picture and it benefited me mentally, emotionally & spiritually to act on that but would frustrate others, which in turn would frustrate me. When looking into what year and country it was she saw Scotland in 1866.  (Which was also incredibly interesting because if you check out my post on my recent past life regression session, my cousin commented on it saying when she went to Scotland in 2005 she had a really strong feeling she’d been there before! (They say your soul tends to reincarnate with the same group of souls many times)).

She saw my sister now (Jen) as a little boy who wasn’t royalty but was a good friend who I would play with (who was just as naughty as I was).  For me he represented freedom and the ability to just play and be a kid and for him I represented a lot of acceptance.  He didn’t have that many friends (and especially not royalty) so it was really special for him that I was a princess and wanted to be his friend.  (Though I played the princess card sometimes, ‘my way or the highway’, which didn’t bother him.)  My current parents were caretakers of mine in this lifetime but not the king and queen – my mother as my caretaker was really patient with me.  The king was a boyfriend of mine in this lifetime, either past or future but she thinks future.

My gift is seeing the bigger picture but I have to realize that I’m still living in the smaller picture too.  There are still rules I do need to go by just to make it so it works out for everyone (although in the grand scheme of things I don’t need to but it makes my personal life a lot easier if I follow the systems already set up).  It’s easier to be in the now than just try/want to jump to the future since I don’t have the tools to jump to the future.

The lesson for this lifetime was that that if I’d just go sit in the princess chair for 5 minutes (instead of running away from it every time they tried to put me there) it would actually take a lot less time than my running from it and being brought back constantly which would end up taking 15 minutes – ie. what there is for me to learn in this lifetime is PATIENCE (which has come up for me before).

I asked if I’d been a princess in other lifetimes and she counted 5.  I also asked how many lives I’ve lived and she said she a lot – hundreds.  My sister and I have joked that we were probably married in a past life (which she got a huge yes for – but not this particular life as a princess) and that she was my mother in a past life as well (which she also got a yes for).  The two biggest things for me to learn in my current lifetime are patience and trust.  I can never know what people are thinking and it will be huge for me to just enjoy the silence, know how I feel about them and let that hold more value than how I think they feel about me.  It would be a huge lesson for me to put the emphasis on me and what I’m getting out of it instead of trying to figure out what they think/feel about me.

Seriously, Deganit is AMAZING!  If you’re interested in doing a session with her you can go to her website and contact her here.

At Sunday’s service at Sacred Center Rev. Gold talked about life being about ecstasy and bliss.  Life begins, continues, is sustained and ends in ecstasy.

Bliss enters us naturally and it is reflected through our consciousness (or comes out of us) as whatever and wherever we are.  For example, if you’re in a crummy mood or angry, it might come out as judgment.

Another way we say this in coaching is that you ARE your essence (your greatest self) and you HAVE a survival mechanism (fears and automatic ways of being within your comfort zone).  In your natural state, you are love and joy.  But we add a lot of ‘stuff’ on top of that (fears, stories and interpretations about who we are in the world) and then live like that is who we are.  It’s just not true.  You are not your fears.  In fact, you just made them up.

We think everything is OUT THERE. But Eastern teachings say that NOTHING is out there.  It is ALL in us.  What we are, is. What we see, is. What we focus on is what we see.

Ultimately every single experience is coming to GROW you.  Though chances are, the experience won’t always look like you would like it to.  Because of course, we want the end point without any of the work.  We want to be wealthy, in incredible loving relationships, in great shape, have amazing homes and travel the world, but we only want it if it’s easy!  We don’t want to have to change or grow or expand in to who we need to BE in order to live that life.

And all it really takes is taking action, every day, that is in service of what you say you want.  Things are going to come up and you’re going to have obstacles pop up along the way.  But those obstacles are to grow you, not to tell you to stop and give up.