Jaclyn Beckerman Coaching

You’ve heard me talk about Sacred Center before and how much I LOVE this spiritual center and going there has made a significant impact on my life.

Well this is in part because I adore Rev. August Gold who is spiritual yet admirably grounded, incredibly funny and fiercely loving.

So it breaks my heart to have found out yesterday that she (and her partner Carol) will be leaving Sacred Center. She’s going outside the church walls to bring the spiritual message to folks who won’t enter the church  to hear it.  She says while she was called by Spirit to found the church, she won’t be the one to grow it.  And so long as she remains the face of the church, and it’s basically her, it cannot grow.

I’ll be honest, I’m kind of heart broken and may have cried a bit yesterday when this news was shared.  I’m still in a bit of shock and disbelief.

While I’m happy she’ll be bringing the message to a broader audience who needs it (a journey I myself feel called to as well with transformational and spiritual work), I still wish she would do both and continue to lead at Sacred Center as well.

I’m also really wondering (and concerned to be honest) what’s going to happen at the church moving forward as I really believe a significant amount of people come there specifically because of her.  Will the new head spiritual director be able to step it up to the same level?  I hope she can.

I’m finding myself being a bit cynical and expecting it won’t thrive and the new lead won’t be able to fill Rev. Gold’s shoes.  Only in this moment do I realize that that’s just my own ‘story’ (or racket for you landmark folk) and I need to get off it.  Something can only make a difference for you if you empower it to do so.  If you’re not open to it, the greatest miracle in the world won’t provide a penny’s worth of value.  So I’m going to choose to be open to this new change and the possibility of it being amazing and inspiring.

For anyone who attends Sacred Center – what are your thoughts on this change?  How are you dealing with your feelings/emotions around it?

Or if you’re not involved with Sacred Center – have you had (or where are you having) an experience like this where something you loved suddenly changed drastically?  What did you do and what did/could you do (or not do) to empower the situation?

The soul doesn’t talk in language, it talks in feeling; in intuition, pulling or knowing towards something.

How often are we in conflict about things because what our head says isn’t what our heart wants?  The answers to your purpose and the path you’re meant to take in this life don’t reside in fear, judgment, or self-loathing.  They lie in going within, to that deep part within you that knows your higher truth and the vast array of abundance that is completely available to you.

Not everyone is willing to take this path though.  Lets be honest, it’s not the ‘easy’ path to take.  It’s so much easier to remain stagnant and stew in the comfort of our incompletions and dissatisfaction than it is to actually break free of those patterns and be responsible for how our life occurs for us.

Personally I stewed for SO long.  For most of my life in fact.  It’s definitely coaching, transformational and spiritual work that has pulled me out of my shitty little box of what was possible for me.  Actually, I always saw the bigger picture and the the possibility of life, I think I just didn’t really believe true happiness and fulfillment was possible for me in my heart.  I knew it was possible for everyone else but some core part of me didn’t believe that I deserved it too.

It’s mind-boggling for me to realize how far I’ve come from that place.  I may have understood intellectually before but didn’t truly get in my heart that love truly is all around you and within.  You don’t need something outside of yourself to tell you you’re worthwhile and lovable.  You, without even trying, just are.  Just like I am.  There are treasures and wisdom and riches within.  Yet I kept looking for things outside of me to justify my worth.  (Look for yourself here too – where are you doing that?)  The ironic thing is that if you know me, you’ve probably always known that I’m valuable and lovable, while not truly believing it about yourself.  Or at least having some form of ‘I’m not good enough’ persistently hanging out in your head.

Funny how we all think we’re so different, but we’re actually not.  We all have fears and insecurities.  We all go through breakdowns and think that ours are so unique… and no one has it as bad as we do… and it’s not fair… and why can’t we just be like everyone else who has it together?!

The big joke is that no one has it all together.  We’re all working out or own stuff and in the process of generating our lives.  We may be at different stages in the process or dealing with different kinds of problems.  (Case and point, Mother Theresa had way bigger problems than I do and was certainly more evolved on her journey of compassion, tender-heartedness and contribution – but I’d put money on that she still dealt with her own fears and ‘problems’ just like everyone else has to. Same with the Ghandi, the Dalai Lama, etc.   We’re human.)

All I’m saying is that when you see, own, and access all the love around and within you, you stop searching for it externally and start owning that you are responsible for and fully capable of creating the life you want.  Rev. Gold said “Once you’ve connected to the inner kingdom, the place from which stuff comes, you now have access to it.  You no longer have to worry about what channel to get it from next.”

So what I’ve taken is is to stop worrying – it’s ALL within.  And wow, are things just happening in my life.  I invite you to do it with me.

I’m feeling the need to share that I don’t like talking about my business in my posts.  There’s something about looking good and avoiding looking bad that consistently keeps me from writing about wins (or breakdowns) or lessons I learn in my business.

I’ve taken my willingness to be vulnerable with people to a whole different level just by starting this blog yet it’s clear to me that I’m not sharing things that would definitely be of value to folks in order to save face or avoid being judged.  It’s funny because I imagine it’s easy for people to judge lots of the things I talk about in my posts anyway yet for some reason when it comes to my business, I get far more confronted than by other topics.

I think we all do this.  We don’t share authentically with everyone what’s really going on in certain areas of our lives because we judge that they should be going or certain way or shouldn’t be going however they are.

Something fabulous that one of my clients said today was that in looking at how things were in the past (actually just a few months ago), she saw that they had to go the way they did and she had to go through what she did in order to get where she is now.  And because of that, she could see that the process was perfect.  Because today she feels empowered and liberated from some limiting beliefs that had a stronghold on her for most of her life.  But couldn’t have gotten here without going through the muck.  By the same logic, you can’t get where you want to go without going through whatever is in the way and breaking it down.  So naturally then, where you are too is perfect.  And there’s simply still work to be done to get the results you want.

So the thing I want to share about my business today is that I’ve had a breakthrough in it recently.  I shared in my post, Give It All Away, that I finally understood that I wasn’t getting what I wanted in life because I wasn’t giving it to the universe.  I said I wanted to be a contribution and to have a thriving coaching practice but I certainly wasn’t consistently having new clients sign up.  What I see is that I was actually being really stingy with both myself and others – more interested in what I could gain for myself than what I could give away to others and life.

What I didn’t share about my experience that day at Sacred Center was that this understanding that I needed to give to the universe what I was looking to have myself really moved to give more than my usual $2 or $3 donation when they passed the baskets around.  Instead, I filled out a credit card slip and donated $20.  This may or may not seem like a huge deal to you but for me it was an act of giving away the thing I’d been struggling to bring in to myself to something I love – without the story of ‘I can’t afford to do this’ or ‘I need to save money’ or ‘This is irresponsible’ attached to it.  I was contributing to something I saw as wonderful in the world instead of looking to be contributed to.  And it felt great.  Her message (I recommend reading the post if you haven’t already) had really shifted my perception of who I was being in the world.

The magic, the reason this is so significant to share, is that the very next day, I had a new client hire me.  While I know I’m a great coach and provide a lot of value for people, actually bringing in new business had definitely not been my strong suit in the past.  So just believe me when I say that this blatant manifestation of the law of attraction was pretty phenomenal.

I have been living and being from this place ever since.  Very aware of my intentions and solely out to contribute to people whether they are friends, prospects, clients, colleagues or family.

This past Sunday at Sacred Center, when they passed the donation baskets around, I at first gave $3, then I decided that was too stingy and was compelled to give more and added another $5.  I also did a workshop which I knew I wanted to participate in and was another $10.  I only had one sample session set up for this week, my first since that last one.  Now THIS prospect, who is wonderful and my ideal client, hired me as well.

More and more I’m feeling confident and certain that my practice is going to thrive and I will be able to serve myself by serving others!  My dream is to support as many people as possible in transforming their lives to be the life of their dreams! (In the future that will also include books and inspirational speaking!) And I must say, living (and loving) from this place and creating this life is SO exciting and rewarding!

What do you see would be possible for YOU if you started living from a space of contributing rather than ‘getting your needs met’ or ‘what’s in it for you’?  (And lets be honest, ‘what’s in it for you’ tends to dominate most folks way of being whether they intend it to or not.)

…and you’ll get it back 1000 fold.

Rev. Gold talked about the law of attraction in her message at Sunday’s service.

Phenomenal message.  She said anything you seek is seeking you.

We are constantly asking what can life do for me when what we should be asking is “What can I do for life?”  It blew my mind how similar this was to the breakthrough I had and wrote about in my blog post a couple weeks ago, Sharing My Heart.

We can’t have what we want until we generate it within ourselves and give it away.  EVERYTHING is already within you.  Put out a hand and ask for life to give to you and you will just end up with an empty hand.  You can only receive what you want when you give it away first.

I believe it’s the Koran that says ‘take one step towards me and I will take a thousand toward you’.  The smaller and stingier we give of ourselves the less we get in return.  When we move in the direction of our hearts and our own personal truth, and give to life, we then create space for that thing to exist within our lives.  When we hold a mentality of abundance, we are then attracting and open to receiving abundance.  When we are generous, the world is generous with us.

It seems so simple yet par for the course of humanity, we make even the most common sense concepts unendingly complicated.

The law of correspondence (or attraction) says that what you yourself are bringing to life, life, like a mirror, reflects that back to you.  Said more plainly, life will reflect back to you that which you have given to life.

The light bulb went on that I have definitely not been giving my best everywhere so of course I’m not getting it back in return.  How could I?!  You can only get what you put out there.

Talk about motivation.