Jaclyn Beckerman Coaching

Hello folks – it’s been awhile, I know.  I apologize for falling off the radar.  It’s been an amazing and very busy summer filled with friends, fun, inspiration and adventure.  As many of you know I’m off to travel the world for a year and a half and my journey essentially begins Sunday.

Here’s the breakdown… I’m driving cross-country for a week with a couple friends, going to a festival in Nevada for a week, CA for a month, Austin, TX for 5 days, then South America for 6 1/2 months.  In South America I’ll be going to Peru, Bolivia, Chile, Argentina, Uruguay, Brazil then in Central America, Panama and Costa Rica.  Then I’ll return to NY/NJ for 2 months to visit friends and family.  Then Africa (South Africa, Zambia, Zimbabwe & Egypt – perhaps more) for 2-3 months and Southeast Asia (India, Thailand, Cambodia, Vietnam & Indonesia) for 6-7 months.  Phew!

I’ll be starting another blog just to update everyone on my life in transit and will note the web address on here for those who are interested and want to follow.

I will still be coaching/working with clients while I travel and I already have the phone issue sorted out.

So why am I sharing this here? Here’s the thing – I’ve had countless people express to me how envious they are of my life.  What I tell them?  If you want it too, do it. The life you live depends solely on the choices you make.  So what DO you want?

The fact that I am now taking on my life’s dream of world travel was NOT predictable 2 years ago.  Before I started coaching and being coached, doing the work to get out of my own way and create a life I love – where my fears don’t run the show – I was slighty uncomfortable going to the movies or dinner alone.  Traveling the world by myself would have been unthinkable.  I’ve always been pretty independent but if you told me this would be my life 2 years ago I would have wistfully laughed and sighed “I wish”.

What I’ve learned is that your life is happening now.  You cannot wait for someone else to hand you the life you want.  Or for it to just fall in your lap.  You will spend your whole life waiting.  You have to commit to creating it and then actually do what you say you’re going to do.  Take the actions there are to take.  Figure out what you want – set a date for by when it will happen and put one foot in front of the other.

If you want world travel, buy an around the world travel guide and start planning.  If you want the relationship of your dreams, play a game with yourself of how many dates you can go on in a week.  If you hate your job, re-vamp your resume and start sending it out today.  It is no one’s responsibility but your own to create the things you want in your life.  No one will do it for you – they’re too busy moaning and groaning about not having the life THEY want.

Stop talking about living a great life and start living it.  The time is always now.  And you are more than capable. Walk the talk.

It’s funny – we always want our lives to be better yet we don’t want to have to be the ones to create it.

I can certainly be guilty of this myself too.  I want to be a leader yet I don’t want to have to be fully responsible for something when there’s a breakdown or something changes.  I’m happy to take something on with the expectation of it going smoothly yet don’t want to deal with the possibility of obstacles or unexpected roadblocks.

Sound familiar?

Yea, that’s pretty much normal life for most folks.

You have a goal you want, but, nevermind just the possibility of failure, you don’t want to deal with the hassle of the potential things that can and will get in your way.

The problem with this is, you never get the results you want if you don’t take the goal on in the face of your fears and the obstacles that will inevitably come up.

My most recent experience of this really has nothing to do with my personal goals but rather something I took on to support one of my communities.  I took it on, a breakdown ensued, and while I knew I had to be the one to handle it, my automatic instinct was to be irritated, frustrated and maybe even a bit insolent about it.

All of my reaction and ‘victimization’ by the situation does very little to support my community and create the result we need.  I get that the gap here this is really about full and complete ownership.  When you take something on, whether it’s your own goal or something that you took on to support another person or group, it is then yours to see through, regardless of what comes up or gets in the way.

There is always an ebb and flow in life.  Things go smoothly and then there are waves.  The distinction here, different than the ocean, is that you actually have a choice in whether you let the wave pull you under or if you choose to just ‘be with’ it and move forward and beyond it.  There’s really no use in getting dragged under by the waves because then you suffocate and cease to really live.  In the case of life, this looks like being ‘at the effect’ of what happens to you instead of ‘causing’ the life (and results) that you want.

What I got from this experience is to really just handle my reactions quicker and get back into empowered action so as to create power in the face of anything.  From this place, there will never be an obstacle that could truly hold you back.  There is abundance in the world and we inherently have the ability (and creativity) to tap into all sorts of resources and support when we choose to take ownership of everything that comes our way in life.

Chew on that for awhile and leave your thoughts below.  Where have you abdicated your commitments in the past or present?  How has that served you and what has it cost you?  How would your life be different if you chose to be ‘the one’ who can make it happen (whatever it is) all the time?

..is to travel.  I don’t really know for how long.  Perhaps for a year or so, perhaps longer?  But I know I want to travel and to write.  At the same time I want to be in an amazing relationship, have some coaching clients as well as passive income and be lit up by what I do.  That’s what I really want.

After a call with my coach today, I realize that up until now this has really only existed for me as a wish or a fantasy.  Something that I so deeply wanted but to me seemed outrageous, frightening, and perhaps a little unrealistic.  The biggest reason is probably that this would cost a lot of money.  Also, I’m not totally confident in my writing skills or if anyone will want to read what I have to say, it certainly seems like it would be harder to meet someone while traveling and I don’t know if people will understand or support my decision to do this.

Yet, the heart wants what the heart wants.  And it would make me happy.  Really, blissfully happy.

It’s not that I haven’t said this before, it’s that I never committed to it before and believed it could happen the way I want.

So the first step is declaring it as something that will be… scary as that might feel.  I don’t have the how figured out.  But that’s how it usually goes in coaching.  Declare now, figure out how to make happen along the way.

So universe, there you go…. do your thing.