Being Connected in Life
What I’ve found is that the moment I acknowledge that I’m in the midst of a breakdown, or said differently – some sort of roadblock (whether internal or external) on the path to my commitment, it starts to dissipate. I fairly recently was in one of these for a good week and a half before actually recognizing it and owning that that was where I was. The moment I did, I was able to see that I’d just been hanging out there and not being responsible for having it be that way. It gave me the space to start moving through it. It wasn’t instantaneous, and I was still in process around it for a bit (in fact there’s parts of it that I am still in process around), but it did immediately start to shift my energy and provide access to a gigantic breakthrough on the other side, bigger than I’d been aware of there being.
Essentially the breakthrough available is in having things be about others. In giving up living my life like it’s all about me, and being the contribution that I’m capable of being. I’ve been told that 99% of people live their lives like it’s all about them. Yet based on what I’ve chosen to do with my life as a coach, and the difference I want to make in the world, I can’t be one of those people. I’ve hit my capacity for it.
I’ve had it that if I have it be all about others, I’ll lose myself and what I want to what they want.
Yet when my connection to others is out, and it’s all about me, I get caught up in my own nonsense and interpretations.
I already know how to connect with myself and my own needs. What I recently realized is that if I have it be about others (and Spirit), then that actually builds my power and my identity. Which will inevitably lead to my getting what I want in the end as well, in fact it’s the only way to truly get what I want. I have to trust that I am receiving as I am giving, even though I likely don’t know what that receiving will be or become.
This requires me to commit to creating deep and authentic connections to others. Through this, others get to be seen and heard, they get to know they are completely accepted exactly as they are.
When we’re not connected to self, Spirit and others, we go inside of our fears and fear is all there is. When we are fully connected in all areas, we can notice fear and still move forward. Generally we create a lot of pain and suffering about the things we resist and have some fear around them. Fear and pain or suffering do not need to go hand in hand. When you’re fully connected, you can have fear and simultaneously distinguish what the pain or suffering is really all about. From here, you can move forward anyway.
There are of course variations of where you might be disconnected than from my personal example above. For example, some people have it be completely about others and never about themselves at all. There, they tend to be disconnected to getting their own needs met and often end up resenting others for their lack of well being or not being heard. Or when someone is connected to spirit and not to themselves or others. In this case one might connect with a higher purpose yet has no access to fulfill on it because life exists in relationships to others and oneself.
Take a look in your life at all three areas, self, Spirit and others. Which one is currently the most out of sync? Consider that your suffering may be a direct result of one of these areas not being handled in your life. If you got completely connected in that area, what would that make available?
Take it a step further: Create at least 3 actions for the next 30 days that will move you towards getting connected and share them below!
